If I could use one word to define the last year of our life, it would be time.
Time is something so valuable, that is often taken for granted. Time passes irrevocably. Once it's gone, you're not getting it back. So the way we choose to spend our time is important. It needs to be intentional. This has been my focus this year, for myself, and for our family. We've now been in Portland officially longer than we were in the Bay Area. We have made it through that transition and 2.5 years of a global pandemic, all while navigating life with teenagers and all the emotional work that comes with that territory. Portland is our home now, and we made a solid effort to embed ourselves into our community this year, and focus our time on things that did just that.
After I wrote my annual post last year, we had a wonderful Christmas at home with family.
Two days later, my amazing, beautiful grandma, (lovingly called Mama Mimi by my brother and me) passed away at the age of 99. She was so much more than a grandma, she was definitely one of my very best friends, she was my sorority sister, and she is the one who I looked forward to talking to on the phone the most. I miss her and our conversations so much, but I am grateful to know that she is reunited in Heaven with my dad (her son), her husband (my Papa Ray), her sister Eleanor, and her parents. She is responsible for a good portion of what makes me, me. I am so grateful for the time I got with her, all the way up until the end. This is a picture that I took of her when Paloma was a baby, and my sister-in-law Larel was hosting a wine tasting party. Mama Mimi was enjoying herself thoroughly with our friends, and said to me, "Candida, take a picture of me like this. This is how I want to be remembered." You got it, Grandma.
Here's a recap of our family's adventures over the last year:
JANUARY
The new year started with Paloma’s 12th birthday and 6th grade basketball season in full swing. As a family, we were able to travel to New Orleans to celebrate Papa Meredith’s 80th Birthday. All 12 of us stayed in a beautiful house in the Bywater neighborhood, and I became quickly infatuated with the oil lamps that we had on our front porch, and that I saw on all the houses nearby. A highlight of our trip was a swamp tour where we learned so much about native and invasive species in the area, and we even got to see a couple small gators! Solon and I were able to reconnect with our friend Albert, who we met on our first trip to NOLA in 2015. It was wonderful catching up with him and touring his business that he built from the ground up over the last 8 years.
FEBRUARY
I was the event chair for the middle school’s Bernstein Bash - the annual fundraiser for the Artful Learning Program at Jackson MS. This was the first event post-pandemic, and luckily the previous person in charge kept amazing notes, and helped ensure its success. Our goal of $30K was raised by the end of the night, and I was thrilled that we pulled it off! We spent a few nights a week cheering on Paloma’s basketball team (the Pickles), and even had a special guest come to support the girls at their home game, and get them hyped up. When I thanked the Portland Pickles Baseball Team for sending Dillon over, their response brought a smile to my face: “Of course! Pickles support Pickles!”
(Dillon T. Pickle pictured below)
MARCH
We drove up to Issaquah/Seattle for Alynsia’s Birthday. While we were up there, I took the kids on a self-guided "10 Things I Hate About You" tour, since the kids had just discovered the movie (one of my favorites from that late 90s), and the movie was filmed in the Tacoma/Seattle area.
APRIL
My mom flew out for her birthday this month, and we went straight to lunch at a fantastic restaurant - La Cocina. The cuisine is from Puebla, Mexico, which is where my mom was born. She absolutely loved it. We enjoyed a few days just being together, seeing some local sites, and eating good food (of course).
MAY
After several years of best intentions, Solon and I were finally able to visit my Aunt Nancy and Uncle Bill at their new home in Charleston, SC. They had been enjoying retirement there for a few years, and we were so excited to explore their new home. My aunt taught me how to be a foodie years ago, and boy did Charleston's food scene not disappoint! From the oysters on the half shell, to fried green tomatoes, to squid ink pasta, we did not have one bad meal. There was so much to explore, and I just couldn't stop taking pictures of the colorful houses. The blue one below was my favorite, with 2 covered patios, and rocking chairs on the porch. I also loved the flower boxes on all the windows.
JUNE
June brought the end of middle school for Quincy, and the start of summer. Paloma and I went to watch West Side Story on the big screen with the Oregon Symphony playing all the music in person. It was such a cool experience, and we both loved it.
JULY
We took a much needed trip to Solon's hometown of Cedar Rapids, IA - it had been 5 years since our last visit and it was so great to see so many family and friends as we did. It was a lot of catching up, and family gatherings, and it was so fun to see everyone's facial expression when our 6' son walked into the room. Highlights included attending the Cedar Rapids Kernels baseball game with Papa Allen and his wife's children, having lunch at the NewBo market, and going back to church to hear Uncle Dicky preach, and hear Papa Allen and Papa Leroy sing. It was a wonderful visit, and we couldn't leave without paying a visit to Grandma Nellie, Gaga and Grandpa at the cemetery. I also got to see the corn stalks up close, and that made me happy.
August
My mom and godmother came to visit us for five days - it was my mom's first time experiencing a PNW summer, and they were both grateful to be away from the AZ summer heat for a bit. We had spectacular weather the whole time, and visited Multnomah Falls, and a dahlia farm that was in full bloom. On August 8, the anniversary of my dad's passing, we went to a local Mexican restaurant called Sandoval's where the owner is a tequila connoisseur and he shared a sip of some of his very best with us in Dad's memory.
SEPTEMBER
Wedding season started to wind down for me, and as I look back on my 3rd season with Bridal Bliss, I am really grateful for the relationships I started to build with vendors and venues this year. We also had such a great batch of assistants, including our next door neighbor (not pictured), who just graduated from high school, and worked a few events with me before heading off to college.
We drove up to Issaquah at the end of the month to spend time with the Willams family who were visiting from Iowa (lifelong friends of Solon's parents), and we left the weekend with our hearts so full of love and gratitude for the time together, and the bonds that were strengthened in just a few days. Quincy attended his first Homecoming dance at the high school, and came back sweaty and elated. He got in the dance circle "17 times!!!" and had an absolute blast with his friends.
OCTOBER
We spent a lot of time watching volleyball games, and outside enjoying the amazing fall weather. We closed out the month with a trip to a local Pumpkin Patch and Harvest Festival, where we got to see first hand how fresh pressed apple cider is made (YUM!), and it was great to spend some time with friends who have become like family over the last year. Solon and I drove up to Seattle to attend the Arizona State University VS University of Washington football (Homecoming) game with Charissa and Eric. We proudly sported our Sun Devils gear and hit up the local college town beforehand. There were a couple dozen ASU fans at the first bar we went into, and we were greeted with a hearty "A-S-U! A-S-U! A-S-U!" so we knew we were in a good spot. It had been a while since the Bells and Stromskis had a double date, and we had such a blast together. Halloween wrapped up the month, with Paloma dressing up as (Tik Tok famous) Omar the Ref, for which she won the costume contest at school. Quincy dressed as Michael Myers from the movie "Halloween" and proceeded to scare the crap out of me every time he came around the corner. Solon and I opted for Bonnie and Clyde and walked the neighborhood with friends while the kids tick-or-treated. It was a great night!
NOVEMBER
The term "No-School-November" got a whole new meaning this year when the Teachers Union (Portland Association of Teachers) went on strike against the Portland Public School District. The PAT and PPS had been in negotiations since JANUARY (!), and the teachers' union told the district they were going to strike November 1st if the district couldn't get a decent package together. Our students already had two Fridays scheduled off for End of Quarter grading, and Veteran's Day, plus the whole week of Thanksgiving. The kids missed a total of 11 days of instruction, before the district FINALLY made a deal the teachers could be satisfied with, and the kids returned to school the Monday after Thanksgiving. The kids and I supported the teachers on the picket lines several times in the cold mornings, and came with coffee and hot cocoa to lift their spirits. They would have MUCH RATHER been teaching - they missed their students terribly, but they were striking for better working conditions, services for the students, and better pay, among so many other things. We were happy to show our support - our teachers do SO MUCH for the community and they needed to know that their community was behind them. Paloma tried out for a club volleyball team, and crushed her goal, and then attended a B'Nai Mitzvah for her classmates (twins) a couple weeks later. She had a blast on the dance floor, and came home ecstatic that a former teacher of hers (whom she adored) was at the event.
DECEMBER
We've started to wind down 2023 this month with a tamale-making party, an impromptu visit with friends who were in town, and a Winter Wonderland Fun Night at the middle school. Quincy turned 15 this month; it was an epic weekend of axe-throwing with friends, and a viewing of the new Godzilla movie (which was AWESOME!). Paloma had a choir concert, and Quincy had his first high school band concert, and they both looked so grown up in their attire.
Phew! What a year! We have worked really hard to create and treasure the moments of joy we get with our family and friends, knowing that the time we get on this earth is a gift, and knowing there is so much suffering and sadness in the world right now. Lost time is never found again, so we will continue to be intentional with ours, and we will savor every moment. We continue to pray for peace, and we hope that you are surrounded with people you love this holiday season. To you, our family and friends, near and far, we are sending you our love and best wishes for a fantastic 2024!